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Anita Traynor (Deputy Head of BRiC)
The summer of 2015 was a low point in my life: I was recovering from breast cancer: diagnosed in November 2014, I had finished active treatment and was coming to terms with the long term side effects of the trauma and the medication; I had taken voluntary redundancy from my career of nearly thirty years, and I was unsure of my identity without my work; I had re-trained as a counsellor but had no motivation to do anything with it, and the voluntary work I had taken on at my local hospice was impossible to return to, as I found it too emotional; my youngest son left home and the country to go travelling and a few weeks weeks later my mother died.
Two things saved me that Autumn: BRiC and a community choir. Fast forward to the start of 2020, and I'm celebrating my fifth year NED. I've got my oncologist's go ahead to stop letrozole, although my original prescription was for ten years. I'm hoping to feel better in this new decade, in this new year which will bring my 60th birthday, than I've felt in a long time. I'm still singing, I found a new volunteering activity at a community cafe, and I'm dancing again too, having returned to Zumba which I didn't think I'd ever be able to do.
I'll never shake off the fear, and I'll always be mindful of how blessed I am to be well. I live quietly, appreciatively, with gratitude. I am privileged and proud to support Naz and her vision for BRiC, and alongside my admin family I hope to provide support to other women blighted by this horrible disease with a few small words of comfort here and there.
Holding hands, together we are stronger.
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Jan Snape (BRiC Admin)
I joined BRiC two months after it was formed, I found it via a friend and immediately knew I would feel at home here. It’s been a huge support to me when I’ve had wobbly moments, I love the honesty and openness of our members and the way we all support each other. Knowing that the things we go through, the side effects, the long-term changes, the emotional issues, are all shared with others is so reassuring. I was honoured to be asked to join the admin team and I enjoy being part of something so helpful.
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Dr Caroline Humber (BRiC Admin)
Hi I’m Bal, I’m 56 and I have worked in the global corporate banking world for 30 years in total. 20 years with my current employers as a global risk senior manager in the chief control office, looking after risks in 52 markets and specialising in the Latin American Region. A very stressful job at times! glad to get off the rat race treadmill! I have currently taken voluntary redundancy and am on 3 months gardening leave. New year, new start, some downtime at the moment.
I was diagnosed when I was 52 with invasive ductal carcinoma breast cancer, on GCSE results day 20th August 2015, routine annual work medical including mammogram.
No symptoms, no lump, no family history!
2 invasive surgeries which included right mastectomy and 12 lymph nodes auxiliary clearance, 8 aggressive rounds of chemotherapy, 15 rounds of radiotherapy. Tamoxifen for 1 year and then another surgery for removal of fibroids & polyps, and then switched to Letrozole 10years.
Cancer came into my life, like an uninvited guest to a party and disrupted the carefree, vivacious person I was and has changed mine and our family’s life forever.
I lost my identify and feminism, accepting a new normal is hard, however I now have a new outlook on life and realistic expectations and look at things through a new lens..... letting go of the past, living in the present and optimistic for the future.
I know what and who is important like my family, those new friends by my side and my BRIC family. I used to be timid and let people walk all over me but now I am more relaxed and more selfish by putting myself first!
When I went back to work after 15months I reduced my working week by one day a week and this is my day to do nothing or something for myself!
We currently live in Essex near Epping Forest..... love the long walks in the forest and not too far from London. I love going to the gym, Aerobics, Pilates & Zumba and I practice mediation to calm myself when the going gets tough!
•Breast Cancer Care Now charity in different areas like speaker events, mentoring,campaigns, focus groups, blogs and I was a model in the 2017 fashion show.
•NHS cancer patient advocate, making sure the voice of the patient is heard and acknowledged for future research and development.
•Princes Trust Mentor for disadvantaged youths, helping them with self esteem and self confidence to gain employment.
•School governor for a local special needs school.
I stumbled across BRiC Feb 2016, when I was going through chemotherapy & radiotherapy.The amount of knowledge and helpful advice I get out of this lovely caring & supportive group (my family), where I have no fear of judgement and can be open about anything & everything. A place that is a safe haven and welcoming with open arms. Always easy to let go of my most vulnerable moments, without feeling afraid and I feel at home and be can be myself. Amazing how we can lean on each other during our darkest hour when our emotions are all over the place and we need a sounding board to give us the ability to move forward step by step together holding hands!
Hi, I’m Nerys and I’m 48. I was diagnosed when I was 41 with a tumour that literally came up over night and was the size of a gold ball. My children were 3 and 7. When my second daughter was born I took a career break from my job as a radiotherapy radiographer. Having seen numerous women during my 17 year career, I really felt I knew exactly what my lump was, and pushed for a fast diagnosis. I had a mastectomy, chemo and herceptin over 2014 and half of 2015. I didn’t ever go back to work as the chemo has left me with severe peripheral neuropathy.
My 2 girls are now 11 and 14, and alongside my husband, I think we weathered that storm together,
I miss my work massively, and so volunteer for Victim Support as well as in a nursing home for Dementia care. I’ve kept my brain ticking over by doing various courses, and I am also an admin for a Covid Facebook page - which definitely keeps my brain working, trying to keep up with all that! I enjoy being a part of the admin team on BRiC, the admins and members are an amazing group of women.
I like being out in the fresh air best, we live by the coast and nothing makes me happier than going to the seafront on a wild windy day and watching the sea froth and tumble onto the beach. Having breast cancer has definitely changed me, I’m more relaxed and grateful now, and definitely appreciate the small things.
Laura Ashurst (BRiC admin)
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